Working For Peace
by Jana Kennedy-Spicer on March 11th, 2015

The War of Words

"God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God."
Matthew 5:9 NLT
​peace  (noun)
:  a state of tranquility or quiet
:  freedom from disquieting or oppressive thoughts or emotions
:  harmony in personal relations
:  a state or period of mutual concord or tranquility
:  a pact or agreement to end hostilities between those who have been at war or in a state of enmity


​The words were flying out of my mouth like projectile missals fast enough to break the sound barrier and they were not “working for peace”.
What - or who - they were working for was me, my sinful self.  They were working to make my point, to have my opinion heard – loudly, to get my way, to force my teenage daughter to stop what she was doing and do what I wanted her to do.   
They were not working to resolve the issue…  they were working to cause more strife and discord.
They were not working to prevent hostility…  they were working to further damage an already fragile relationship
My words were not “working for peace”.
It’s an embarrassing moment, one that sadly others witnessed.  One for which I would love to have a mulligan.  One that the enemy likes to replay over and over for me.
Maybe you’ve had a moment like that also.

​But it was also a moment that God used to get my attention.  With conviction I had to ask myself about my role -- What was I bringing to this raging thunderous relationship with this daughter I was so desperately trying to save, but rapidly losing?
​”Am I the storm? Or am I the calm? Am I the instigator? Or am I the comforter?”
​And it became a turning point.


Our Words Are A Choice

Be Gracious

“Gracious words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”
Proverbs 16:24
​In her book “Keep It Shut”, Karen Ehman writes, “What is the result of intentionally speaking graciously to our family, friends, and other necessary people? Of loving them without stopping?  Of containing our anger with we speak and dealing with them in a patient and faithful way? When we choose to lace our words with grace, healing happens.”

Be Constructive

“So then we pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.”
Romans 14:19
​Our words may be small and few, but they wield great power; with them we can be in the construction business or the demolition business.  Imagine how our relationships could grow and flourish if we would exert the effort and choose to speak words which edify instead of tear down.

Be Silent

​“In the multitude of words, sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise.”
Proverbs 10:19
​Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all, to put the brakes on all those words speeding to get out and be heard by the masses.  Let them make another pass through our filter, the Holy Spirit, and listen to His words about our words.
British writer Dorothy Nevill has said, “The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.”

Using our words as tools to work for peace takes effort, it takes intention, it takes humility, it takes sacrifice, it takes thinking more of others than we think of ourselves, it takes laying down our will to do God’s will.  And in all of these ways we begin to resemble our Heavenly Father, to manifest a spirit like His and become worthy to be called His children.
So let’s use our words to work for peace. Let’s be gracious. Let’s be constructive. And when necessary, let’s be silent.
Lord, forgive me for the bitter hurtful destructive words which I all too quickly spew forth. Forgive me for not extending grace to others, the same grace you freely willing extend to me. Father, I long for my words to be sweet and to bring healing. I long for patience to filter my thoughts through the Holy Spirit before they escape as words. Help me to remember that my words are not about me, but rather since I am yours, my words are about you. I long for my words to bring glory to you. In your Son's precious name, Amen.
Blessings Soul Friends 
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If you're like me you need all the reinforcement you can get!  So here are some more of God's words to help us reign in our words.

On being gracious:
​“All spoke well of him and were amazed at the gracious words that came from his lips.” Luke 4:22
“Gracious words are pure in God’s sight.” Proverbs 15:26

On being constructive:
​“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11

On being silent:
​“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.”  James 1:19
“Do not be quick with your mouth; do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few.” Ecclesiastes 5:2

​Jana Kennedy-Spicer is a blogger, graphic artist, Bible teacher and speaker passionate about inspiring and encouraging women on their daily walk with Christ.
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Posted in Blogging Through The Bible, Gracious Words    Tagged with Beatitudes, peace, words, Matthew, proverbs, Romans, gracious, constructive, silent, Ephesians, James, Ecclesiastes, 1 Thessalonians, Luke, relationships


~ linda - March 11th, 2015 at 6:29 PM
Oh, how often the words come tumbling out and then it is too late. I have a friend who was homeschooling her boys. When they were just 4 and 6, she gave them a piece of paper and told them to write the word "WORD" on it. They did. Then she handed them a tube of toothpaste and told to trace the four letters. After they finished, she asked them to put the toothpaste back in the tube to which they both said, "Mom, we can't do that....." Thus a beautiful lesson ensued about how we cannot put our words back inside of us once they are out. I listened to her telling this story and have never forgotten the truth of it.
Your words have given me God's Word to strengthen it all and paste it together in my heat and head!
Visiting from Meredith's.
Caring through Christ, ~ linda
Jana - March 11th, 2015 at 7:05 PM
Linda, that is a wonderful lesson indeed! Thank you so much for dropping by, I have been blessed by your visit.
Tiffany - March 11th, 2015 at 6:55 PM
Jana - such wise council and sound wisdom here. That tongue of ours can be unruly, can't it?! It's so amazing how the words not spoken can often speak volumes for us and for Him.
Jana - March 11th, 2015 at 7:06 PM
Amen! It's a lesson I need to practice more often! Blessings!
Bevy @ Treasured Up and Pondered - March 11th, 2015 at 7:07 PM
I know I really appreciated this thought, today!! Very timely message..
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