In Memory of Me
by Jana Kennedy-Spicer on April 6th, 2015

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​The other day I spent my morning doing something none of us ever really like to do, attending a friend’s memorial service.
Funerals are not a new experience for me; there have been seasons in my life where memorials of someone’s life were a frequent occurrence.  And the one thing they all seem to have in common for me, is they always take me to the same place….
What will be said at my funeral in memory of me?
This service seemed different though, and this caught me off guard.
There were beautiful flowers, touching songs of praise and moving words of honor and reflection, and a church full of family and friends.

​But there was also a testimony and some words retold which sprouted a desire down deep in my brokenness as soon as they fell on this turned over and plowed heart. 

​As the telling went, there had been a few moments between very close friends just minutes before surgery.  They prayed.  “I’m at peace.  In truth I’ve never felt closer to God.  He’s here.  So close that if I turn too quickly, I just might bump into Him.”
My friend's testimony. My heart’s desire.
To be so close, to feel Him so near.  To cast away any and everything in between.  To reach out with this hopeful hand and touch Him. 
Matthew tells us of such a woman; a woman who cast aside all else to be in Christ’s presence, to reach out and touch Him.  
​Jesus has found himself in Bethany at a friend’s house and, as usual, he was among his disciples.  And there was “a woman”*.  A woman that was so close to Jesus, that she DID reach out and touch him.

​A Sacrificial Woman 

​“..a woman came up to him with an alabaster flask of every expensive ointment, and she poured it on his head as he reclined at table.”
Matthew 26:7
Now this wasn’t just any oil, this wasn’t the common oil used for medicine or everyday household purposes. No this was expensive, ‘pure nard’ and cost the equivalent to almost a year’s wages.  It could have likely even been everything she owned and her dowry that she was saving to bring to her marriage.
This woman made a great sacrifice to touch her Lord.
  • Am I holding close to my precious things instead of being close to God?
  • What am I truly sacrificing so I can touch Him?
  • Do I gather and hoard more than I need, not trusting God for provision?

A Shameless Woman

​“And when the disciples saw it, they were indignant, saying, “Why waste this? For this could have been sold for a large sum and given to the pour.””
Matthew 26:8-9
Now this was a very bold move on her part. In her time, women did not congregate with men in this manner. But near to her presence is her Lord. She casts off convention, as she shamelessly makes a path through this group of men to reach Jesus.
Once in his presence and within touching distance, she unapologetically expends this most precious dowry on Jesus with no consideration of what the others present will think.  She must have known how it would look.  She must how known what they might say.
But with no shame for her very public, very expensive, very personal expression of devotion for her Lord, she stepped out and followed through.
  • Am I holding back my expression of worship because I am worried about other’s opinions?
  • Do I let what other’s may think is a waste keep me from expressing what God thinks is a beautiful thing?
  • Am I letting my fear or my faith influence my decisions? 

A Secure Woman

“But Jesus, aware of this, said to them, “Why do you trouble the woman? For she has done a beautiful thing to me. For you always have the poor with you, but you will not always have me. In pouring this ointment on my body, she has done it to prepare me for burial.”
Matthew 26:10-12
Jesus speaks up to defend this woman’s expression of devotion. He shields her from their criticism. He creates a safe and secure and sheltered place of worship and relationship for her.
As the church is the bride of Christ, and this woman is part of the church, He quite openly defends the honor of his bride and creates a safe boundary around her.
Secure in His love for her and confident of His Lordship, she shamelessly steps out to render the most grand sacrifice she can offer, having no idea of the sacrifice He is about to make for her … and for you and for me.
  • Do I let insecurities in my ability override my security in God’s ability?
  • Do I say “no” to God because I can’t see what He is about to do?
  • Am I the inattentive bride, not expressing my love for and devotion to my Lord? 

A Selected Woman

​“Truly, I say to you, wherever this gospel is proclaimed in the whole world, what she has done will also be told in memory of her.”
Matthew 26:13
Because of this woman's selfless expression of devotion toward Jesus, He has selected her as an example to be shared generation after generation whenever and wherever the word of His gospel is shared.
He knew I would read this passage.  He knew you would read this passage.  He knew of everyone who has and about everyone who is yet to read Matthew 26:6-13. 
And He dedicated these words to be spoken in memory of her, as a testimony to us.
  • Someday, someone will speak words in memory of me; will they be similar to these?
  • Will I be remembered as loving my Lord sacrificially?
  • Or worshipping Him shamelessly?
  • How about living securely in His love for me? 

For sure I will not, if I do not.

I would love to hear your thoughts? Will you join the conversation in the comments below?

Blessings Soul Friends, 
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​Jana Kennedy-Spicer is a blogger, graphic artist, Bible teacher and speaker passionate about inspiring and encouraging women on their daily walk with Christ.
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* between the 4 gospels, several of the same stories are retold but from the view of a different writer and may contain or exclude like details. For example, in the book of John, the woman is identified as Mary, sister of Martha and Lazarus 

Posted in Blogging Through The Bible, Soul Friends    Tagged with memory, Matthew, sacrifice, secure, select, shameless, opinions


Debbie Prater - April 6th, 2015 at 11:41 AM
Love your blog and the heart check questions. Very thought provoking. I pray that I don't hold back my heart from Him.
Jana - April 6th, 2015 at 7:37 PM
Thank you Debbie! Oh that is my prayer also!! Thank you for stopping by! Blessings
Angela - April 6th, 2015 at 7:27 PM
I think every time I read this I will now do so with a view of her being representative of the Bride. That gives an added dimension to an already incredible story and I can't wait to explore that further. Great insights!!
jana - April 6th, 2015 at 7:41 PM
Yes Angela. Seeing her this way just seems to make is to much more personal. It's like we are getting a glimpse into this very private and personal moment. The way He honors her sacrifice. I've read this story so many time, but it just spoke differently to me today.
Thanks for coming by and linking up! Blessings #SoulFriend
Deborah - April 6th, 2015 at 8:49 PM
Such an important woman in Jesus' life, really (and for our sake too). To think He loves us just this much too? Breathtaking... May I never be inhibited...
Thank you for this gentle reminder of the relationship we have--not just a religion.
Christine Duncan - April 6th, 2015 at 8:57 PM
This question really gets my attention... "Do I let insecurities in my ability override my security in God%u2019s ability?" Wow. My prideful self wants me to ignore that question, lol. I wonder how many times I've gotten in the way of what He wanted to accomplish just due to my own insecurities?
I'll be chewing on all this goodness for a while, Jana. Thank you, friend!
Visiting today from the #LifeGivingLinkup :)
Danise Jurado - April 6th, 2015 at 9:56 PM
Hi Jana!
This is a beautiufl post! Thank you so much for sharing... I am your linky neighbor at #LifeGivingLinkup - my first time joining... Love connecting with you on Twitter. I am sorry to hear of the loss of your friend, these are some very insightful points... I love the "heart check" parts.
Blessings to you and keep shining for Jesus!
Kim Stewart - April 7th, 2015 at 6:12 AM
Oh sweet Jana, I need a heart check in all those areas for sure! Thanks for sharing all that you have gleaned from scripture so that I can study it too. Love all you are doing with Sweet to the Soul. You are making a difference!
Tai East - April 7th, 2015 at 3:47 PM
Amazing post, Jana! All of the heartchecks really made me reflect on my own life. Thank you so much for sharing this, Dear! Infinite blessings to you, Love! :-)
Dolly@Soulstops - April 7th, 2015 at 9:42 PM
This question is one I ask myself regularly: "Am I letting my fear or my faith influence my decisions? " Thanks for sharing your insights..nice to meet you via #RaRaLinkup
Kia Stephens - April 9th, 2015 at 6:38 PM

Your post really had some good questions for me to think about in my own life. At the top of the list would be "What is going to be said about me at my funeral?" I hope I will be known as a shameless, sacrificial, secure and selected woman. Thank you for your thoughtful insights on one of my favorite passages of scripture. Be blessed! - Kia
Traci@tracesoffaith - April 13th, 2015 at 8:15 AM
I think about my memorial service too. I pray it will be more about Jesus. The final moments of this friends' life sounded just precious.
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